Last time in Ephesians 4, we ended with Paul’s admonition not to grieve the Holy Spirit by whom we are sealed unto the day of redemption. We are to put away from us all bitterness, wrath, anger, quarreling, evil speaking, and malice. Instead, we are to be kind and tender-hearted to one another, forgiving one another, even as God has forgiven us in Christ Jesus.
Picking up in chapter five, Paul tells them to be imitators of God just like a child imitates their parents. The first way we do this is to walk in love. If we are to be imitators of God by walking in love, this means that God is love, just as Christ loved us and gave Himself for us as an offering and sacrifice. An offering speaks of giving to God out of gratitude for temporal blessings, while the sacrifice speaks of the blood of an animal used as an atonement for sin. Jesus, for the joy set before Him of redeeming you and me, gave Himself to the will of His Father by enduring the cross, and offered Himself as an atonement for our sins. This was a sweet-smelling aroma to the Father. So too, we can present ourselves as a living sacrifice out of gratitude for what He has done for us, and demonstrate this sacrificial love towards others. This is all summed up in loving God with all our being and loving our neighbor as ourselves. If we are really walking in love, we won’t sin, and so Paul continues with things believers are not supposed to do.
He says that fornication, uncleanness, and covetousness are not to be even named among them. In our day, fornication usually means just sex outside of marriage (e.g. boyfriend and girlfriend), but it is actually much broader than that. It is any illicit (unlawful) sexual intercourse, and includes adultery, homosexuality, incest, bestiality, etc. It includes actual intercourse, as well as other sex acts that people like to say are not sex. It also includes idol worship which often involved sexual immorality. The word for fornication is where we get our word pornography. Those creating the porn are obviously engaging in fornication, while those viewing it are engaging in covetousness which Paul will address next.
The only type of licit sex is between a man and woman as husband and wife. The author of Hebrews writes, “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.” (Heb 13:4) The marriage bed is undefiled, so once a couple says “I do,” they have the green light to enjoy sex.
Uncleanness is along the same lines as fornication, but also refers to impure motivations. Covetousness is lust or greediness for more, and really is a sin of the heart. It can be sexual, but is really just wanting something that is not ours to have. Again, the viewing of pornography would fall into this category. Some attempt to justify lust since it is not the outward acts, but Jesus told His disciples, “You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Mat 5:27-28)
The problem with lust is that it is never satisfied, and yielding to it only leads to more. In the context of sexual lust, it leads to more perverse behavior. Again, God’s standard is that these things are not to be named among believers. If a believer is overtaken by sexual sin, they need to repent, and others in the Church should seek to restore them in the spirit of meekness (Galatians 6:1).
In addition, he states that filthiness, foolish talking, and course joking are not to be named among believers. Filthiness speaks to obscene speech or behavior. Foolish talking means an easy turn of speech, and has the idea of turning every conversation into a joking comment about sex. Course jesting is inappropriate humor that is crude or sexual in nature. Most of us have been involved in this kind of talk at some point in our lives, but that does not mean it is alright to continue on doing so.
All of these things are not fitting for saints. These things are not pleasing to the Lord, and because we are saved, we should no longer want to act this way. Rather, we should give thanks. We should be thankful to the Lord in a general sense, but also thankful for sex as God intended it. Ingratitude and discontentment are often the springboard to these sins.
Next, Paul appeals to something they already knew when he says, “For this you know, that no fornicator, unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God.” In other words, people who practice these sins he previously mentioned with no signs of remorse are not going to Heaven because they are not true believers. They are technically idol worshipers, because they have made idols out of their own lusts. He goes on to say, “Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience.” So, not only is he saying these people do not have any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God, but that we are not to be deceived into believing anything to the contrary. At a certain point, you either have to ask the question whether or not they have renounced their faith, or were never saved to begin with, depending what theological camp you fall in as it relates to eternal security. To say a practicing homosexual or adulterer, for example, is saved and going to Heaven because they said the sinner’s prayer when they were 10 is, according to Paul, empty words. Because the wrath of God is coming upon these individuals, we should not be partakers with them.
Believers didn’t just used to walk in darkness, but they were darkness. However, they are now light in the Lord. Because the Lord is in them, they now walk as children of light. They demonstrate the fruit of the Spirit, goodness, righteousness, and truth. As believers, we want to do that which is pleasing to the Lord.
Believers are to have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but reprove them instead. We don’t do this just to talk about them, because what they do in secret is shameful. However, we do it in order to properly identify right from wrong and to teach others. The way we reprove the works of darkness is with the light of the Scriptures. We don’t do this self-righteously, for we used to be darkness too. We do it with humility and love that they will hopefully be brought into the light of the Lord as well. Paul then quotes, “Awake, you who sleep, arise from the dead, and Christ will give you light.” God is calling out to the asleep and spiritually dead to be made alive and enlightened with the light of Christ.
Paul then tells them that they should walk circumspectly (carefully), not as fools, but as wise. If we are wise, we will understand and believe that what God says to do or not do is for our good, and put it into practice in our own lives. The days are evil, and so we should do as much as we can for Jesus in the time we have left. We need to apply our hearts unto wisdom by understanding the will of the Lord.
An easy way to be unwise and to walk foolishly is to get caught up in vices, particularly those vices that alter our frame of mind such as drugs and alcohol. Paul instructs them not to get drunk with wine. If we are looking for a hard and fast rule regarding alcohol, this is it here. We are not to get drunk by drinking in excess. If we are drinking to the point where our physical or mental faculties are impaired, we have had too much. As we discussed in Romans 14, there are other principles to consider, but those are more situational depending on our circumstances. However, drunkenness is plainly a sin, and is spoken against in both Old and New Testaments.
Rather than being drunk, we are to be filled (to the brim) with the Spirit. The grammar here says, “be constantly being filled with the Holy Spirit.” In the original language, the verb “be filled” is in the passive voice, meaning this isn’t something we can do ourselves, but is something the Lord does to us. It is also in the imperative, meaning it is not optional. Jesus describes two relationships that the Holy Spirit has with believers. The first is when the Holy Spirit takes up residence inside of us at salvation. He told the woman at the well, “but whoever drinks of the water that I shall give him will never thirst. But the water that I shall give him will become in him a fountain of water springing up into everlasting life.” (Jn 4:14) The idea is a well of water bubbling or springing up from the ground in which someone can drink from to quench their thirst. The second relationship is when the Spirit comes upon a believer, filling them to overflowing. In John 7, Jesus says, “If anyone thirsts, let him come to Me and drink. He who believes in Me, as the Scripture has said, out of his heart will flow rivers (torrents) of living water.” (Jn 7:37-38) As we can see, the former is smaller in magnitude and more personal in nature, while the latter refers to a mighty rush of living water flowing out from within a person. It is obviously larger in magnitude, and its effects are more external. It is that dynamic work of the Holy Spirit in a persons’ life that fills them to overflowing, and enables them to affect and reach others for the Kingdom of Heaven.
This is interesting, because Jesus said this latter passage at the feast of tabernacles when they celebrated God’s miraculous giving of water out of the rock at Horeb through Moses. There are those who have gone to Saudi Arabia and found what they believe to be this rock by matching it up with the biblical descriptions. It is a huge rock that shows evidence of geysers of water shooting upward and then running down into a basin for the children of Israel to drink. It was torrents of water.
The initial coming upon by the Spirit is what the Scriptures refer to as the baptism of the Holy Spirit or the filling of the Spirit, but as we can see from Ephesians and the book of Acts, this is an ongoing occurrence. We can quench the Holy Spirit’s work in our lives through sin or by simply ignoring Him. Deliberately choosing to use mind-altering substances such as an excess of wine would be a good example of this.
The Spirit-filled life is marked by a life of worship, and encouraging others to do the same. We are to speak to one another in Psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in our hearts to the Lord. It is also characterized by a life of gratitude, as Paul tells them to give thanks always for all things. This is quite a statement: As the saying goes, “All means all, and that’s all that all means.” This is not that we are thankful for evil happening, but what God will accomplish through it. We are also to submit to one another in the fear of God. The word submit is a military term, and means to fall in rank or to place in subjection. This is also quite a statement, especially in our culture today. We think we have rights, and how dare anyone infringe on those rights. But here, Paul is telling us to submit or yield to others. This is important, because next he will talk about authority. Even when we are in a place of authority, we are not to use that authority to serve ourselves, but yield when we can out of love for others. As we read in Romans, “Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another.” (Rom 12:10) Lord willing, next time, we will finish the chapter, and get into the topic of marriage.