Ephesians 6 - Children and Parents

In our last study in Ephesians, we talked about marriage. We saw how it is between one man and one woman, and that it is for life. Paul gave two basic rules for marriage, that if both follow, it would eliminate most of our marital problems. Wives are to submit to their own husbands as unto Christ, and men are to love their wives, even as Christ loves the Church. Men are to lead their families in serving the Lord by teaching them the Word.

Continuing on in Ephesians, Paul writes, “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. ‘Honor your father and mother,’ which is the first commandment with promise: ‘that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.’” God’s directive to children is that they obey their parents, and to do so because it is right in His eyes. The primary way that children receive teaching and instruction for life is through their parents; it is set up this way by the Lord. Solomon wrote to his sons, “My son, keep your father’s command, and do not forsake the law of your mother. Bind them continually upon your heart; tie them around your neck. When you roam, they will lead you; when you sleep, they will keep you; and when you awake, they will speak with you. For the commandment is a lamp, and the law a light; reproofs of instruction are the way of life.” (Pro 6:20-23) The idea here is that parents are to teach their children about the Lord by using the Scriptures, and it is for their good. It is this teaching and instruction that guides them through and keeps them safe in life. Most importantly, they show them the way to eternal life. Our society deems a child a legal adult somewhere between the age of 18 and 21, but it is probably more related to when they leave home, get married, or both. The Lord said in Genesis, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”

Although adult children no longer have to obey their parents, they still need to honor them. The word honor means to highly value or revere them. They are the ones who brought us into this world, and they are the ones who raised and took care of us until we were adults. Even as adults they still help us from time to time. Most importantly, they are the ones who taught us about the Lord. To honor them does not mean everything they do is right or that we should act like this is so, but that we should respect them for their position in life as our parents. If they are wrong, we should not rebuke them harshly, but attempt to persuade them with longsuffering and a soft tongue (1 Tim 5:1-2 and Pro 25:15). The commandment for children to honor their parents is the first commandment with promise. We are promised that it will go well with us, and that we will live long on the land, or at least we will be more blessed and live longer than we would otherwise if we dishonor our parents.

Although these first two directives are to children, parents have something to learn from it as well. First, if it is the Lord’s expectation that children obey and honor their parents, then this means the parents are the ones solely responsible for them. It is a prevailing thought today that children belong to the collective whole or even to the State, but this flies directly in the face of the Scriptures and the Lord’s plan for family life. It does NOT take a village to raise a child (just sayin’). If we recall, they are a gift or a possession from the Lord, so according to the Scriptures, our children belong to us, given to us by God Himself.  Yes, children need to respect and obey other authority figures, but from the Scriptures we can see that Mom and Dad have the final say.

Second, if the Lord says that children are to obey and honor their parents, it is the parents’ job to instill this into them. From the passage in Proverbs we already discussed, Solomon was teaching his sons. I cannot stress enough the importance of dads being, not only involved in the training of their children, but the leaders in doing so. Statistically speaking, when Mom is the spiritual leader of the home, the children sometimes follow, but when dad is the spiritual leader, the numbers are significantly higher.

The importance of obedience, including that of children to their parents, is stressed all throughout the Scriptures. It is not for acceptance into the kingdom of God, but because we are already part of the Kingdom through faith in Jesus Christ. So too, children are born into our family, and nothing can change this, no matter how they behave. However, because they have been given to us, and because we love them, we teach them right and wrong so that they can live a long and prosperous life. For parents to neglect this responsibility is to rob them of these blessings. Naturally, our children are not always on board with this idea of obedience, so it is up to us as parents to administer appropriate consequences with the goal of changing their minds.

The third directive in this passage is to dads. Fathers are not to provoke their children to anger. I believe this applies to both parents, but the Lord, in His wisdom, knows that dads have a greater tendency to struggle with this. There are a lot of things that can provoke our children to anger, but in my opinion, nothing provokes anger more than someone else’s anger. Especially as dads, we are the head authority figure, and what we say goes. When a dad becomes angry, it can be quite intimidating from the perspective of a small child. When they are younger, children will normally comply out of fear, but as they grow, that can turn into resentment, bitterness, and rebellion. It really places a child or teenager in a difficult spot: If they want to please the Lord, they will try to obey and honor their parents, but they are not left a lot of recourse when the parent is easily angered and becomes unreasonable. This anger does not have to be abuse, as most of us are not beating on our wives or kids. It can be merely impatience, unwillingness to listen, and quick to mete out punishments that are harsh or more than is necessary. If we are parents, most of us have been on both the giving and receiving end of this type of anger. However, I believe the major problem lies when we are in the habit of acting this way toward our children. Paul even adds another detail in his letter to the Colossians that the child can become discouraged. If a child is having issues with anger, depression, or rebellion, it is likely there is a parent or other authority figure at home with an anger problem.

As we discussed in chapter 4, we are to put all wrath and anger away from us. Our tendency as dads sometimes is to think that we need to use our anger to motivate our kids to do what we want, to toughen them up, or to make them successful in life. This may appear to work in the short-term; in fact, some children respond to this motivation. However, it does not in the long-run. David wrote of the Lord, “You have also given me the shield of Your salvation; Your right hand has held me up, Your gentleness has made me great.” (Psa 18:35) It was not the Lord’s anger, harshness, or meanness that made David great, but it was His gentleness. For those of us who have read about David, he was no wimp. He was a man’s man who was a successful warrior, but he was also a man after God’s own heart. The Lord had David’s heart, and I believe this was largely due to His gentleness. Do not misunderstand, I am not saying that we cannot be firm or even raise our voices with our children, for firmness is exactly what they need at times. This firmness is something our wives have a more difficult time matching, especially with teenage boys. However, this firmness should be rooted in love rather than pride and anger.

Again, Paul is addressing dads when he says they should bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord. Training refers to a training by act, and speaks more to the discipline a child needs. Now, there is the obvious discipline when a child misbehaves, and there is the discipline of making them do things they don’t want to do like working hard and taking responsibility for their actions. In whatever the case, the goal is to make the child a better person while they are young, as well as when they are adults. We do this because we love them. Proverbs says, “He who spares his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him promptly.” (Pro 13:24) If you are a parent looking for advice on how to train children, the book of Proverbs has a lot to say on the subject. There is also a ministry called Solve Family Problems that gives biblical solutions to family and Church problems.

The word admonition refers to the verbal training a child needs. As we previously discussed, this is from the parents teaching their children the Scriptures. In Deuteronomy it states, “And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.” (Deut 6:6-9) The Lord and His word are to be constantly on our minds and hearts, and Jesus should be central to everything we do and say. It’s obviously not the only thing we talk about, but more what our words and actions hinge on. I don’t only talk about my wife and children, but because I love them, they are central to what I do and say. How much more with the Lord.

Both training and admonition are necessary for the rearing of the child. Proverbs says, “The rod and rebuke give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.” (Pro 29:15) Without the verbal instruction, the child lacks the understanding of what is right and wrong, and although he or she is disciplined, will not fully understand why or how to change their behavior. Without the discipline, the child will understand what is expected of him or her, but will often lack the incentive to change. In summary, rather than motivating our children with anger, we should do so with loving discipline and verbal instruction.

Next, Paul goes onto the servant/master relationship. The Bible addresses this topic in both the New and Old Testaments, and although it does not directly condemn owning slaves or servants, it does place some strict parameters around it. The servitude the Bible permitted is often related to either being a captive of war, being sold to pay a debt, or a willing servitude. This is in contrast to slavery in early America and Europe in which Africans were kidnapped, chained, marched across the continent, and sold to Europeans by Muslim slave traders. This type of slavery became a racial problem, with whites viewing blacks as inferior and even less than human. There is no biblical basis for this type of slavery. Kidnapping and selling persons are condemned in the Old Testament with capital punishment (Exo 21:16).

The closest thing we have to the servant/master relationship today would be that of the employee/employer relationship. He tells the bondservants to be obedient to their masters with fear and trembling, with sincerity of heart, as to Christ. One criticism of the whole idea of wives submitting to their husbands is that men get off the hook. However, they still have to submit to authority outside the home, and their employer is one of those areas. There are some difficult bosses out there. I remember when I worked at a call center, I had a manager who monitored my calls, and when she would review them with me, she would laugh at me when I would make mistakes. While this is far from what you would consider a terrible work environment, it did irk me that she took pleasure in pointing out my mistakes. It got bad enough that I was concerned I might lose my job. However, I since learned that when you work for the federal government, it’s next to impossible to lose your job, especially with the employee unions. There was nothing I could do but to grin and bear it. I was tempted to put her in her place, but I knew it wouldn’t be pleasing to the Lord, nor would it bode well for my success in the workplace.

Employees are to do as they’re told in the workplace, giving reverence to their boss or supervisor. They are to do it with sincerity, remembering they are really doing it for the Lord. When we have a difficult employer that we don’t want to submit to, it helps to know we are doing it as unto Christ. Conversely, to not submit to our employer is to disobey the Lord. We are not only to obey when they are present, but also in their absence. They shouldn’t need to be looking over our shoulders to be sure we are doing our jobs. Again, we are doing it for the Lord, so it shouldn’t matter if our employer is watching, because the Lord is watching. We are to do the will of God in the workplace cheerfully. We are the Lord’s bond servants.

Paul adds in his letter to Titus that we are not to answer back (argue) with our employer, but rather as he told the Philippians, “Do all things without complaining and disputing.” I remember in sports as a kid, a coach would make us run for something wrong we did. Every once in a while, someone would complain, and that never worked out in our favor. It’s better just to do as we are told without arguing or trying to defend ourselves. There is an appropriate time to voice our concerns, but usually in the moment is not the right time. Paul reassures us that the Lord will reward us for the good we have done.

Masters (employers) are to do the same things (e.g. do the will of God from the heart as unto the Lord. They are to give up threatening, that tendency to clamp down and rule with an iron fist. They are to remember their Master is in Heaven, and He does not show partiality. In other words, if employers are mistreating their employees, they are going to have to answer to God for it. Again, that’s a master you don’t want to have to deal with, at least in that context. In the remainder of the chapter, Paul will     finish up by discussing the spiritual battle the Christian faces, and how to be ready for that battle.

Ephesians 5 - Marriage and Family

Previously in Ephesians, Paul instructed them to be imitators of God and walk in love, even as Christ loved us and gave Himself or us. There is not to be even a hint of sexual immorality in the Church, whether it be fornication, uncleanness, or covetousness. He also adds filthiness, foolish talking, and course jesting as behaviors that are not fitting for saints. Those who practice these things will not inherit eternal life, so as a result, we as believers should not be partakers with them in such things. We are to walk in the light and expose the works of darkness with the light of the Scriptures. We are to be filled with the Spirit, living a life of worship and praise toward the Lord and submission to one another.

Next, Paul is going to shift his focus directly to the family. Over the last 70+ years, the biblical family structure has been chipped away at by progressives. Many people have given up on marriage and chosen to cohabitate, and those who do marry, roughly one in three ends up in divorce.  This differs little for those who call themselves Christians, although the rate is significantly lower among those who are committed Christians. In the last couple of decades, it has turned into an out-right assault, as people and even our court system have attempted to redefine marriage altogether. These things are nothing new, for a lot of these pagan practices we are seeing return in our day were alive in well in ancient Rome. As we will see, marriage is a picture of the relationship that Jesus has with the Church, so it comes as no surprise that the devil seeks to attack this area the hardest. Before jumping into what Paul has to say, I want to begin by defining biblical marriage. Even for those of us who have been taught these things, sometimes it is good for us to revisit the basics.

              Back in the Garden of Eden, God said that it was not good for man to be alone. He brought all the animals to Adam to see what he would name them, but among them there was not found a suitable helper for him. So, the Lord then caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam while He performed the first surgery. He took out one of Adam's ribs and made a woman for him. After the Lord brought the woman to Adam, He said, "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh." (Genesis 2:24) Jesus would later say, "Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." (Matthew 19:6) From this we can first see that God created woman for man to be his helper: his closest companion to help him navigate through life successfully and raise a family that knows and serves the Lord. Second, it was the Lord who created marriage and presided over the first wedding ceremony. If the Lord has created marriage, then man has no right to try to redefine it. It was and still is for one man and one woman. Third, it is for life. When a couple gets married, they are making a life-long commitment to each other before God and witnesses. In other words, when times get tough (and they will), they do not get to bail out of their commitment. The "D' word should never be on the table. As long as a couple allows divorce to be an option, they are much more likely to take that option when things are bad enough.  If the devil knows divorce is an option for a couple, you can bet he will work hard to push them to that point.

There are limited exceptions to this. Jesus, again, said in Matthew, “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.” (Mat 19:9) The word for sexual immorality here is fornication, those unlawful sexual acts that are done out of the confines of marriage that we covered last time. So, if a couple divorces and re-marries for reasons other than fornication, Jesus says they are committing adultery. The only other exception I see in the New Testament is when a nonbeliever wants to leave the marriage (1 Co 7:10-15).

Now, of course, a separation may be necessary at times, such as when the wife and children are in danger from an abusive husband, however, I do not believe this is grounds for divorce. If Jesus and Paul wanted to communicate other exceptions, I believe they would have done so. Just like the apostles, this can be a difficult thing for us to accept, especially if we are being affected by it in some way, but we have to trust that God knows what is best.

Divorce was a problem in ancient Israel as well. Malachi writes, “Because the Lord has been witness between you and the wife of your youth, with whom you have dealt treacherously; yet she is your companion and your wife by covenant. But did He not make them one, having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth. ‘For the Lord God of Israel says that He hates divorce, for it covers one’s garment with violence,’ says the Lord of hosts. ‘Therefore take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously.’” (Malachi 2:14-16) So, as we can see, God views divorce as treachery and violence because it is breaking the most solemn covenant. The Lord even goes as far as to say that He hates it. Divorce rips apart two that have become one. It decapitates the marriage and destroys the family.

One of the reasons for keeping our marriage vows is to have godly offspring. I remember reading a study several years ago about how many of the children that got involved in the homosexual and transgender lifestyle had come from families in which the parents had been divorced. While this is certainly not the only variable, I thought the statistic was interesting. Marriage provides a safe and stable place to raise children that will fear and love God. Divorce, by no means, is the unpardonable sin, but it is a sin nonetheless except for the reasons I previously mentioned. If we have fallen short in this area (or in any other area), we simply need to agree with God and confess our sin to Him (the Christian’s bar of soap). The Scriptures say He is faithful and just to forgive us and cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Then, begin walking as He has called us to walk.

Just like marriage started in the garden of Eden, so did marital problems. After Adam and Eve ate of the forbidden fruit, God told Eve, “Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.” (Gen 3:16) The idea behind the original language here is that the woman, in her sin nature, will try to usurp her husband’s God-given authority for her own personal interests.  Likewise, the husband in his sin will neglect his God-given responsibility to love his wife, and instead seek to subdue her and rule over her for his own personal interests. Before the Fall, there would have been perfect submission to and perfect love for one another, but now, because of sin, there is a battle.

Coming back to Ephesians, Paul will give two basic rules for marriage, that if both follow, most of their problems would be worked out. Whenever we encounter problems in our marriages, either one or (usually) both of us are not following Paul’s directives here. He will address both wives and husbands where they are often weak.

To the wives first he says, “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.” The word “submit” here is actually a military term that means to rank under or to put in subjection, and in other Scriptural passages is rendered to be under obedience.  The wife is to willingly place herself under her husband's authority, and in doing so she is ultimately doing it unto the Lord.  Her husband is her general and king of her castle if you will, and he is second only to Jesus Christ.  He is her head just as Christ is the head of the Church, and as a result she should treat him with the reverence that accompanies this position. As Christ is her Savior, her husband is her protector and the one who lays down his life for her. To disrespect and disobey his authority is really to disrespect and disobey the Lord.  This does not mean that a woman is her husband's property, cannot voice her opinion, or be involved in the decision-making.  In fact, when we get to the husband's primary responsibility to love his wife, we will see that it is quite the opposite.  This idea of submission is not a matter of equality, but a matter of God-given roles. Paul wrote to the Galatians, “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” (Gal 3:28) However, if after prayer and discussion they cannot agree, she must submit to her husband's leadership.  The only time when she should not submit to her husband is if he is asking her to do something biblically wrong; in that case she should, without question, obey the Lord.

Some might say, "You don't know my husband," and you may be right.  However, your job as a wife is not to change your husband, but (with the Lord's help) to be responsible for your part.  This isn't because he deserves it (Lord knows we don't deserve it), but because the Lord says so.  In the meantime, pray for him and allow the Lord to deal with him.  The Lord can deal with a bad husband much better than you can, and for a Scriptural example I would encourage you to read 1 Samuel 25.  Your prayer, continual reverent submission, and godly character will have the best chance of bringing him around.  Peter writes, “Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.  Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.” (1 Peter 3:1-4) In the interim, believing wives should surround themselves with godly women that will pray for and encourage them in these areas.

To the husbands Paul writes, "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.  For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.  This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.  Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband." (Ephesians 5:25-33) The Lord's primary direction to husbands in this passage is to love their wives as Christ loved the Church. Just as women have difficulty submitting to their husbands, so husbands have difficulty loving their wives as they ought. We as men are pretty self-centered, and quite often being a jerk comes pretty naturally to us. So, the Lord here is reminding us in the area that we are weak. The command to love here is not referring to tender affections or the intimacy shared between a husband and wife, but it is the word “agapao,” the divine love that the Lord has for you and me. This is first an unconditional love. It is given regardless of the actions of the other; the other person is unworthy of that love. Second, it is a sacrificial love that is chiefly demonstrated in the Father's giving up of His only begotten Son to redeem you and me. We have done everything not to deserve this love, yet God has loved us anyway by allowing Jesus to die on the cross in our place. This is the type of love with which we are to love our wives. It is a love put into action. We are to sacrifice the fulfillment of our own wants and needs by dying to ourselves, and seek to meet the needs and desires of our wives. Third, it is a servant love.  If we remember from the Gospel of John, at the last supper, Jesus girded himself with a towel and began washing the disciples’ feet. So, Jesus, being the Lord and creator of the entire universe, took on a job done by the lowliest of servants. He had every right to ask the disciples to wash his feet, but he humbled himself to serve them and model the type of behavior we are to exhibit toward one another. So too, as the head of our homes, we as men have the authority to ask our wives to serve us, but rather than using our authority to serve ourselves we should humble ourselves to serve our wives. You are the general of your family and king of your castle, but she is not merely a common soldier or servant. She is your queen, and as a result she needs to be treated as such. God has given her to you to be your helpmate, so you should desire her input and be willing to yield to her wants and needs when possible.

Jesus also loves the Church by sanctifying and cleansing it with the water of the Word. In like manner, Jesus Christ and His Word are to be at the center of our marriages and families. It is our job to lead our wives and children in serving the Lord and studying the Word of God. It is up to us to ensure that our families are regularly attending Church and fellowshipping with other believers. So often we as men are willing to let our wives do that job, but that is not the Lord's will for us. If our families are going astray from the Lord, the blame has to come back to us as husbands. As the head goes, so does the rest of the body.             

Some might say, "You don't know my wife." Again, you may be correct. I don't know your wife, but the Word of God still remains true. Our job is not to change our wives so that they submit to us, but to do our part in loving them unconditionally. We are not called to love them because they deserve it (they do not), but we are called to love them because the Lord says so. The apostle Paul wrote to the Colossians, "Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them." (Colossians 3:19) We are not to allow bitterness to set in when our wives are disrespectful and do not submit to us, but we are to love and respect them anyway. The best chance they have of coming around is through our love, respect, and our prayers. Just like the Lord can deal with a bad husband, He can also deal with a bad wife, and the Scriptures have examples of this as well.

The Lord holds us as husbands accountable when we do not treat our wives the way we should. Peter writes, "Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered." (1 Peter 3:7) We are to dwell with our wives according to knowledge (with understanding), and honor them as the weaker vessel. I have heard it said that men are like A&W root beer mugs: you can bump and clang them around, but they remain intact. They might get a chip or a scratch here and there, but they'll be ok. Women, on the other hand, are like crystal. If you bang crystal around it shatters, and it cannot be put back together again. If we mistreat our wives through disrespect, harshness, or abuse, they may eventually reach a breaking point. Once there, only the Lord can heal them and put them back together. Praise God for his healing and restoring power. We need to remember that our wives are co-heirs with us of the grace of life. When we mistreat them, we are mistreating the Lord's daughter, and that's the kind of dad you don't want to mess with. When we fail in this area, the Scriptures actually state it can hinder our prayers. If we ever feel like our prayers are just hitting the ceiling, one of the questions we need to ask ourselves is how are we treating our wives? Again, as the spiritual heads of our homes the Lord holds us to a higher standard, and we as husbands and fathers have a lot of influence on what direction our families will go.

Paul states husbands are to love their wives as their own bodies. People are naturally self-preserving, so Paul uses this to remind us that since husbands and wives are one flesh, when a husband loves his wife, he is loving himself. The opposite is also true: when he mistreats his wife, he is harming himself as well. Rather, he should nourish and cherish her as the Lord does the Church. We are members of His body, of His flesh, and of His bones.

Next, Paul quotes from Genesis 2 when the Lord says, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” First, the man shall leave his father and mother. Many couples get married, but still are clinging to mom and dad instead of to each other. Or, maybe the married couple have left Mom and Dad and are trying to cleave to one another, but Mom and Dad don’t want to let them go. I have seen this cause family tension, including marital problems, especially if the husband and wife are not on the same page. It can also cause problems with the grandchildren if Grandma and Grandpa try to interfere with how their own children are trying to raise their kids. There is nothing wrong with parents trying to speak into their grown children’s lives; in fact, a certain amount of this is helpful for raising a new family.  However, there does need to be a healthy boundary there where the parents respect the decisions of their grown children and let them live their lives and raise their children as best they see fit. The grown children also need to remember they have left their parents, are cleaving to one another as husband and wife, and that they are their own nuclear family now. However, at the same time, they should remember that their parents have already been through what they are now embarking on, and that they can be a great source of wisdom and guidance.

This is a great mystery that the Church has the type of union with Jesus Christ that a man has with his wife. Marriage is a picture or type of something far deeper. Marriage is great and wonderful, but the unity that Christ has with the Church is far greater and more wonderful. The union of husband and wife is temporal, but the union of Christ and the Church is eternal. He ends by returning to his prior point, that a man should love his wife as himself, and that the wife should respect her husband. In the following chapter, Paul will continue his discussion on family life, and will speak to the parent-child relationship.